DeLulu · Heart online, brain switched on
DeLulu helps teenagers and adults understand digital relationships, recognise the warning signs and find the words to talk to each other again.
Two books, illustrated stories and workshops that bring the conversation out of the chat and into real life.
Where do you want to start?
Test yourself
A message arrives from a profile you don't know. Three messages, three choices. Heart Online and Connected Brain will tell you what they think.
It takes less than a minute. Play on your own, with your child or in class.
The warning signs in this chat:
Phones were made to bring closer those who are far away,
not to push away those who are close.
The DeLulu message
Coming soon
An event that opens real conversations: parents and teenagers in the same room, with Patrizia Sardara and Orlando Coach.
Why DeLulu was born
A message that won't stop. A request that makes you uncomfortable. A relationship that suddenly changes tone.
For a teenager it can be hard to recognise when something is wrong. For an adult it can be just as hard to find the right moment and the right words to talk about it.
DeLulu was born to bring these two worlds closer.
No magic formulas. Just stories, questions, educational tools and chances to talk.
DeLulu in 35 seconds: two books, the Compass and the workshops.
delulu
It's what you say when someone is making up a movie in their head: imagining a story that's nicer, safer or more romantic than what the facts are actually saying.
In short, DELULU is that moment when the heart races ahead… and the head lags a little behind.
Why is it called DeLulu?
«One day my son used a word you teenagers use… and I thought: okay, I'm keeping that one!»
Patrizia Sardara
It happens all the time in chats: we get excited, we read between the lines, we hope, and sometimes we believe what we imagine more than what we actually see.
The heart can take off like a rocket. But let's bring the brain along.
Sound familiar?
You don't need to be a social media expert. You need to be there.
Our mission
We give teenagers, parents and educators the same words to recognise a chat that hurts, say no without feeling guilty and ask for help before it's too late.
No lectures. No taking anyone's phone away.
Our vision
Teenagers who can spot manipulation even when it arrives with three little hearts. Adults who ask «who are you talking to?» without fearing the answer, because they know how to listen to it.
Families, schools and communities that speak the same language about the digital world.
Pathways
The books
The DeLulu shop
T-shirts, caps and gadgets with the DeLulu logo, Heart Online and Connected Brain. For teens who believe in it, for parents who want to be on the same team, for schools that bring the project into the classroom.
The shop opens soon. Want T-shirts for your class or event? Write to us.
The DeLulu method
Emotions are to be listened to. Choices can be trained.
The pink heart: the emotions that reach us even through a screen.
The blue brain: the choices we can train.
The Compass isn't about grading emotions. It's about stopping, listening to what we feel and working out the next step.
Tap a word to see an example and a tip.
An example
A classmate texts you to ask about tomorrow's homework.
What you can do
Enjoy the conversation. Even when everything is fine, remember you can always stop if something changes.
The Compass is an educational tool for reflecting on your feelings. It isn't a test and it doesn't replace professional advice.
A real-life story
Sometimes a request comes disguised as a test of love or friendship.
But trust should never force us to do something we don't want to do.
«I'd rather not.»
Listen and watch
Original songs and videos to open and close our workshops, and to keep the conversation going at home.
«Non farti film» · Official music video with Italian subtitles · 3:26. The video loads from YouTube only when you press play.
For parents
Dall'altra parte della stanza
Free for your class
To print, project or share with your students. Leave your email and we'll let you know when new cards come out.
About me
The coaching contribution
Words can bring people closer or push them apart. Even the way we react to what worries us can change a conversation.
In the DeLulu project, Orlando Coach brings his professional experience to help teenagers and adults reflect on emotions, listening, reactions and communication.
During the workshops, his role is to encourage dialogue and offer practical ideas for facing everyday situations with greater awareness.
orlandocoach.itFrequently asked questions
DeLulu is an educational project on digital relationships created by Patrizia Sardara. It includes a comic for teenagers, «Come non farsi fregare da una chat», a guide for parents, «Dall'altra parte della stanza», an online game, free resources and sessions for schools, companies and organisations.
Teenagers aged roughly 14 to 19, parents, teachers and educators. The comic speaks to teens through stories and chats they can recognise themselves in; the parents' book helps adults open a conversation without turning it into an interrogation.
Some signs keep coming back: over-the-top compliments from a stranger, questions about where you are, guilt-tripping, asking to move to another app and asking you not to tell anyone. In the game «Would you have fallen for it?» you can spot them in three messages. The Polizia Postale explains how online groomers operate on a dedicated page.
Don't pay and don't send anything else. Don't delete the messages and don't close the profile: save the evidence with screenshots and the profile link. Talk to a trusted adult straight away and report it to the Polizia Postale through its reporting portal, as the Polizia Postale advice recommends. Anyone over 14 can also file a complaint on their own at any police office. 114 Emergenza Infanzia is free and available 24 hours a day.
Just write through the contact form or to info@deluluchat.it. DeLulu offers workshops for students, meetings for parents and tools for teachers. Timing, classes involved and format are agreed with the head teacher and the school's cyberbullying contact person.
DeLulu offers opportunities for discussion on digital relationships and on dialogue between parents and teenagers, aimed at employees who are parents. A first contact with Patrizia, through the contact form, makes it possible to assess needs and goals and build a proposal suited to the company.
Town councils, libraries, parishes and associations can contact Patrizia through the contact form to discuss a DeLulu initiative. Audience, format and organisation are agreed together, taking into account the local area and the hosting venue.
On the site you'll find, for free, the online game, the skill cards, the DeLulu family pact, the classroom questions and the project sheet. The two books, the comic for teens and the guide for parents, are on sale on Amazon.
Patrizia Sardara, mother of four, strategic Social Media Manager and AgenPress.it correspondent. She created and wrote the project and is its main contact person. Orlando Cetta (Orlando Coach), Mental Coach and Trainer, contributes to the training side during the events.
Contact
Would you like to bring DeLulu to your company, school, town or community? Write to us: we'll set up a first meeting to present the project and build the right proposal together.
